Coming out to your family that you are a member of the LGBTQ community can definitely be a challenge. Not only are you likely afraid of what they will think of you, but you may even be worried that they will alienate themselves from you completely as soon as they know. We want to reassure you here and now that coming out of the closet is not only worth it, but achievable even if you have reservations about it.

As you are perhaps already aware, the lesbian, gay, bisexual community has been receiving a lot of attention of late. After all, if the last election is any indication, the American people — especially those that identify as such — are more conservative than ever before in handling a variety of issues, including the rights of sodomy, civil liberties and another issue near and dear in the lesbian community.

In the past it has been easy for LGBGTQ members to hide their sexuality behind ” camouflage” in order to live as normally as possible in school, church, the workplace and other places. Now, however, such members who are identified as lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender are required to publicly display their sexual orientation. As a result of this additional agitation towards those in the lesbian community, many people in the community have earned a new name: “Transgender Bathroomers.”

“Transgender”, as taught in most schools today, is someone who identifies as the gender not assigned to them at birth. This designation is only deemed valid if the person calling themselves transgender has had (or is intending to have in the near future) a surgical procedure known as gender reassignment surgery in order to “correct” his or her gender.

But the question is not how random people at school or at work or wherever the case may be will react, but rather how your family will react? And when you put things into context, you will realize that your true family will love you no matter who you are as a person. If they don’t accept you after you’ve shown them your true self, then they really shouldn’t be considered your true family either.

This makes the process so much clearer to navigate. Even though coming out will not be easy (even if you know your family and friends will accept you), at least knowing that in the end you will have people who accept you for who you are makes the process worth the initial hesitance and fears.

Always keep this fact in mind, and remember that your fear will be short-lived, and instead replaced with something that will last with you for the rest of your life. True love and respect from people who can only be described as genuine family.